Caring for children takes lots of time and energy, as many of you totally understand!
In your role as parent, as you work to build respectful, encouraging relationships with your children, don’t lose sight of your other adult relationships!
If you are married or in a close relationship, set aside “sacred” time for that important relationship. The amount of time spent and what you do depends on your budget and what child care is available, but making that time and using it wisely is critical. The two of your could
- Talk together after the children are in bed
- Take walks
- Ride bikes or play a sport together (but leave time to talk as well)
- Have a picnic
- Go out to dinner
- Get away for a weekend
There are endless possibilities to explore…
During your special time together, set aside thoughts of the children, work, and other responsibilities. Instead, focus on your relationship. Listen to each other, share feelings, encourage each other, and have fun together.
And keep in touch with friends, whether they’re other parents of young children, have older children, or have no children. Even occasional phone calls will keep your friendships going.
What will you do this week with your partner? What will do this week to maintain your friendships?
To learn more about relationships, read Don Dinkmeyer and John Carlson, Time for a Better Marriage (1984, American Guidance Service) and Taking Time for Love (1989, Prentice Hall).