A dear friend of mine often tells me about books she reads that resonate with her. I appreciate her thoughtfulness and open mind and heart….
This evening after dance class my friend shared the following quote from “Rowing the Atlantic” by Roz Savage.
“I have learned not to take things personally. Just as I eventually realized that the ocean was not being deliberately spiteful in order to punish me — it was doing what oceans do, according to the laws of physics — so just the same, if people cricicize me or judge me, it is not really about me, it is about them. They are acting according to the laws of thier own personal physics, created by a life history of conditioned hopes, fears, and emotional triggers, which have nothing to do with me.”
Might this be what goes on for that person who bullies another? Share your thoughts…
Perhaps one of the most incredible experiences of life, for me anyway, comes during those special occasions when so many of those I love rest under one roof. With that experience I feel a sense of purpose and peace. To have together spouse, children, grandchildren, and even pets who are valuable, important, and part of durable and sustainable relationships all sharing the same food, space, hugs, and quality rest.
True, our busy lives make it impossible for all to be gathered at one time as often as we might like, and it would not be healthy if we all were constantly joined at the hip, but during those times when most can come together, well, it is always cause for celebration and expressing heartfelt gratitude. I am truly grateful for those that I love and the life that, with hard work and patience and determination, has unfolded. Amazing and priceless…
Maybe it is all about trust — trusting that those near and dear are honest, real, and genuine human beings. I realize that those are the qualities that endear me to another, warts and all. It is powerful and also comforting to feel that one can trust significant others to be who they are, no charade, no façade.
I stumbled across a website by a man in Wales who has built an environmentally friendly home for his family. The pictures he includes suggest that he and his family appreciate the feeling that I know when those I love are under one roof. His creative vision, skill, and talent allow him to express his values in his own unique way. But I like his story and photos!