1. Encourage the child
2. Avoid punishment and reward
3. Use natural and logical consequences
4. Be firm without dominating
5. Respect the child
6. Induce respect for others
7. Induce respect for the rights of others
8. Eliminate criticism and minimize mistakes
9. Maintain routines
10. Win cooperation
11. Take time for training
12. Avoid giving undue attention
13. Sidestep the struggle for power
14. Withdraw from conflict
15. Act! Keep your mouth shut!
16. Don’t shoo flies – “You can’t do that because I said so.”
17. Use care in pleasing – have the courage to say “no”
18. Avoid the first impulse – do the unexpected
19. Refrain from over-protection
20. Stimulate independence
21. Stay out of fights
22. Be unimpressed by fears
23. Mind your own business!
24. Avoid the pitfalls of pity
25. Make requests reasonable and sparse
26. Follow through – be consistent
27. Listen!!!
28. Watch your tone of voice
29. Take it easy
30. Downgrade “bad” habits
31. Have fun together
32. Talk with them, not to or at them
33. Establish a family council
Reference:
Dreikurs, Rudolph. (1964). Children the Challenge.
This is a classic work in defining healthy relationships between parents and children, and sets the stage for sound and wise principles for child guidance and discipline. A must-read for every parent!