Being a mother is definitely hard work. No matter if you have a houseful of children, or a few special pets, or you worry about elderly neighbors, our tendency to “mother” or care-take those more vulnerable than we are can be quite strong, turn into hard work, and at times really wear us out.
I am especially in awe of my eldest daughter, mother of a very active two and a half year old who has spent a good deal of time in recent weeks walking the dog and getting as much exercise as possible (in-between meal prep, household chores, potty duty, and being an attentive disciplinarian) in order to speed along contractions to deliver her second daughter. She is weary, to say the least, yet possesses more patience and resilience than I recall having at the same stage in my own life. She doesn’t lose sight of her primary focus as loving support to her family. I see in her a steadfast determination to be a “good enough” mom, not afraid to ask for help when she needs it, and setting realistic priorities about how time is best spent. She picks her battles carefully, able to let go of little annoyances that could easily throw her off course. At times it is hard for me to witness her busy life, perhaps because it brings back memories of my own life under similar circumstances. Yet, I truly admire her attitude and skill… I am very proud of her wisdom and maturity… And, I pray that little one arrives safely soon… Her family will then move into yet another chapter of their lives. Exciting times, for sure, but definitely busy for mom and dad!
How do you help yourself manage all the responsibilities that go with being a “mom” to your children, or pets, or those you feel responsible for?