Some of us are planners — trying to keep organized and ahead of the game. Yet that can keep us spinning our wheels, at times immobilized. It is good to plan, good to reflect, and good to not make impulsive decisions. But sometimes we are better for making the best decision available at the moment, taking a chance, and stepping forward. Few decisions are carved in stone. We can make another decision…
Being a mother is definitely hard work. No matter if you have a houseful of children, or a few special pets, or you worry about elderly neighbors, our tendency to “mother” or care-take those more vulnerable than we are can be quite strong, turn into hard work, and at times really wear us out.
I am especially in awe of my eldest daughter, mother of a very active two and a half year old who has spent a good deal of time in recent weeks walking the dog and getting as much exercise as possible (in-between meal prep, household chores, potty duty, and being an attentive disciplinarian) in order to speed along contractions to deliver her second daughter. She is weary, to say the least, yet possesses more patience and resilience than I recall having at the same stage in my own life. She doesn’t lose sight of her primary focus as loving support to her family. I see in her a steadfast determination to be a “good enough” mom, not afraid to ask for help when she needs it, and setting realistic priorities about how time is best spent. She picks her battles carefully, able to let go of little annoyances that could easily throw her off course. At times it is hard for me to witness her busy life, perhaps because it brings back memories of my own life under similar circumstances. Yet, I truly admire her attitude and skill… I am very proud of her wisdom and maturity… And, I pray that little one arrives safely soon… Her family will then move into yet another chapter of their lives. Exciting times, for sure, but definitely busy for mom and dad!
How do you help yourself manage all the responsibilities that go with being a “mom” to your children, or pets, or those you feel responsible for?
Perhaps one of the most incredible experiences of life, for me anyway, comes during those special occasions when so many of those I love rest under one roof. With that experience I feel a sense of purpose and peace. To have together spouse, children, grandchildren, and even pets who are valuable, important, and part of durable and sustainable relationships all sharing the same food, space, hugs, and quality rest.
True, our busy lives make it impossible for all to be gathered at one time as often as we might like, and it would not be healthy if we all were constantly joined at the hip, but during those times when most can come together, well, it is always cause for celebration and expressing heartfelt gratitude. I am truly grateful for those that I love and the life that, with hard work and patience and determination, has unfolded. Amazing and priceless…
Maybe it is all about trust — trusting that those near and dear are honest, real, and genuine human beings. I realize that those are the qualities that endear me to another, warts and all. It is powerful and also comforting to feel that one can trust significant others to be who they are, no charade, no façade.
I stumbled across a website by a man in Wales who has built an environmentally friendly home for his family. The pictures he includes suggest that he and his family appreciate the feeling that I know when those I love are under one roof. His creative vision, skill, and talent allow him to express his values in his own unique way. But I like his story and photos!